Life after loss
The loss community is somewhere you hope you will never end up but for a lot of us we find ourselves here anyway. It’s an amazing community filled with people just like us, people who have went through the hardest thing life could give us. For many loss is not the end of our journey, it’s only the beginning. Some move on to continue growing their families, while some learn to navigate grief , and living with loss while trying to achieve life goals. Moving on after loss is hard no matter what that journey looks like. I have had the honor of working with so many loss families. I love getting to see the rainbow after the storm, after working with so many special families here is some things I have learned. Loss is wondering everyday what the future holds while also knowing the pain of what could happen. It is wanting to move forward but being so scared at the same time. scared of something as simple as using the bathroom or taking a walk, being scared of getting a cold or eating the wrong thing. loss can feel lonely even with an entire community knowing exactly how you feel. You always hear things like “its not your fault”, while that is true it is a hard thing to hear simply because then you are not sure how to fix it or keep it from happening again. This fear is common and normal especially when going through pregnancy again. I know first hand how loss can take a toll on everything from day to day activities to things like faith. Your heart will never feel complete and it’s hard to understand how to continue forward. We trust our doctors and science but sometimes that is not enough to save us from the heartache that is loss. While we are told “you are not alone” it does not make things hurt any less. Your fears are valid and real and it’s something that we need to learn to overcome. Grieving babies that would have been and not forgetting what we went through. Learning how to heal our hearts is not something you get directions for. Feeling death inside your own body is something that you can’t even put into words. Something that helped me is living a life for the baby I lost. It seems silly but living my life to the fullest and honoring him every step of the way. Being out in nature and connecting with the physical earth can feel so healing for your soul in such a calming way. Living a healthy lifestyle can help you feel good even if you are hurting. While there is no words to change this situation just know that you are strong and you can do this! It may feel impossible some days but giving your self grace and love can really help during this hard time. You will get through this and you will be ok it may not feel like it now but I promise you if I can do it so can you! It will be the hardest battle to fight but you will come out the other side. There is happiness on the other side and I hope every parent going through loss finds that happiness
